{"id":748,"date":"2014-05-29T16:47:28","date_gmt":"2014-05-29T20:47:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/?p=748"},"modified":"2014-12-15T12:26:33","modified_gmt":"2014-12-15T17:26:33","slug":"dont-hate-the-mate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/?p=748","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Hate the Mate!"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Matt<\/a>

Matt is a good roommate: Yes\/No (circle one)<\/p><\/div>\n

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Back in January, I posted some Quick Tips for Roommate Survival<\/a>, hoping first-year college students would be heading back to school after one semester of roommate living and possibly looking for smoother sailing. \u00a0Well, in the spirit of preemptive and preventative measures, this post is for graduating high school seniors as they begin to meet their roommates for the very first time.<\/p>\n

It’s an excerpt from an appendix in my book called “Don’t Hate the Mate,” and it provides some discussion prompts for soon-to-be college roommates.<\/p>\n

Feel free to share with those who might care….<\/p>\n

\u2018Don\u2019t Hate the Mate\u2019 Share Sheet<\/i><\/b><\/h2>\n

<\/i><\/b>(For sharing with prospective roommates)<\/i><\/b><\/h2>\n

In our \u2018Don\u2019t Hate the Mate\u2019 <\/em><\/strong>chapter, we talked about how good communication is key to roommate relationships, and how that communication can begin BEFORE meeting in person in the fall.\u00a0 Knowing that you can\u2019t possibly predict your exact sleep schedule and social behaviors once you actually begin your \u2018dorm living,\u2019 the questions below will help you prevent some of the issues that could fester and grow.<\/p>\n

Feel free to share this with your new roommate via social media, and maybe even do the exercise together.\u00a0 It\u2019s either going to help you start bonding right away, or scare the s*** out of you!<\/p>\n

1. What smells bug you?<\/i>\u00a0 (Body odor?\u00a0 Potpourri?\u00a0\u00a0 Are you a fresh air freak where you\u2019d rather have the window open in the winter time and wear a sweater than smell that thick, musty indoor air?)<\/p>\n

2. What sounds bug you?<\/i>\u00a0 (Screamo music?\u00a0 Only hearing one side of a phone conversation?\u00a0 Snoring?\u00a0 Alarm clock sounds vs. music to wake you?)<\/p>\n

3. What sights bug you?<\/i>\u00a0 (Messy spaces?\u00a0 Open curtains?\u00a0 Sunlight in the morning?\u00a0 Black-light posters?\u00a0 Cat posters?\u00a0\u00a0 The color yellow?\u00a0 Old tennis shoes?\u00a0 Anything other than complete darkness when you sleep?)<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 What\u2019s your greatest fear or concern about your prospective roommate(s)?<\/i>\u00a0 (He\u2019s a Taylor Swift fan?\u00a0 She will bring boys into our room for \u2018extra-curricular activities?\u00a0 He will play video games all day and never talk to me?\u00a0 She won\u2019t like it WHEN I borrow her clothes?)<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 What are you like when you\u2019re at your worst? (When upset, do you shut down? Do you rage for five minutes and then want to be buds again? Are you a little passive aggressive? Does it help if someone brings you ice cream?)<\/p>\n

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NOTE:\u00a0 If you have trouble coming up with answers to these questions, you are going to be an incredibly tolerant roommate, and anyone would be glad to share space with you.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Answer the questions honestly and share your responses with your prospective roommate(s).\u00a0 If Taylor Swift or black-light posters or borrowing clothes will be a deal-breaker, it is absolutely best to figure that out sooner rather than later.\u00a0 In fact, having reflected on these things that bug you, maybe this is a good time to consider if they REALLY are deal-breakers, or if, with a little bit of effort, they could fall within your expanded level of tolerance.\u00a0 If you think you could tolerate them, imagine doing so EVERY day for the ENTIRE school year.\u00a0 That should be a good indicator.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0Again, know thyself.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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(If you find the roommate note in the above photo entertaining or scary or both, feel free to check out more here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

  Back in January, I posted some Quick Tips for Roommate Survival, hoping first-year college students would be heading back to school after one semester of roommate living and possibly looking for smoother sailing. \u00a0Well, in the spirit of preemptive and preventative measures, this post is for graduating high school seniors as they begin to meet their roommates for the … Continue Reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/748"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=748"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/748\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":947,"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/748\/revisions\/947"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=748"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=748"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carpecollege.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=748"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}